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What New Age teachings usually describe as twin soul / twin flame relationship, we call a classic twin soul reunion. It needs a definition because it is not the only kind, but it is the most exciting one. The reason why it’s thought to be the only type is because it is so intense that even people who are not in it can feel something out of this world going on. The others are easier to miss.
The classic Twin Soul reunion happens on any soul age level, not solely during the last incarnation, and the twin souls meet usually quite young for the first time, close to 20 years of age, give or take a few (<5) years. The relationship is always very complicated, but the type of complications depend on the maturity level of the soul. The younger the soul, the less external complications there is, and the older the soul, the more external trouble the pair needs in order to remain separated for some time – normally anywhere between a year and 20, 30 years. The life plan may be extremely complicated, sometimes with a lot of “supernatural” elements to it – but only on older soul age levels. The younger souls need very little provocation to mess things up royally for themselves, but nonetheless, the relationship is no less magical than those of the older souls.
There are some signs to look for when waiting for him or her to show up. The repeated number 11′s are probably the first sign to see, but more importantly, you may have a strong feeling that your twin soul is near. You may start dreaming of them, and if this is, as it often is, a long lost love from childhood or youth, you may remember them after years of locking them away from your active memory. Typically the twin soul pair has met in early life and have had a romance. The other option is that this is a childhood friend that has been taken away by their parents. Typically it is the most intense type of twins that have met as children for the first time, because separating them in teen age or later would have been virtually impossible. If this is not the case, they must have been separated by some elaborate life plan; something that absolutely forces the issue. The most intense pairs would never part under any circumstances if they had half a choice or the remotest possibility to stay together.
When the twin souls meet at early age, it will spark a spirituality that will grow during the separation. Both pars of the couple are highly spiritual, although the males may be more low key about it, especially level 7 old souls, both, in fact, compared to the very traditionally spiritual level 5rs. The spirituality will base itself on a non-organised religion, most likely New Age, that may, however, be too structured for the level 7 pairings, who will have their own form of spirituality. (Level 7 old souls don’t necessarily bother to read too much, meditate or follow guidance, although will probably have a look into New Age material just to get an idea of what all this is; rather they follow their own very strong instincts.) During this separation they will need to reach a certain level of understanding and their personal issues must be sorted out before reunion can take place.
Typically the reunion takes place between ages 35 and 54. This is due to the life task at hand, younger twins souls won’t be mature enough to complete it. (Naturally the non-classical reunions can take place any time at all.) This reunion comes after a major life change, or life event that has left at least one of the two quite rattled. Both of them don’t necessarily experience a change – at least not as big. Also typically both of the pair have been married or are married during the reunion. Often the marriage has been ended recently or it will end as a result of the reunion. Although many sources mention children, this only applies to majority of people as it normally would, but childfree twin soul pairs do exist (of course) and their advantage is that due to practical reasons they can get started at an earlier age. (For one thing they are free from family responsibilities and have had more time to devote to their spiritual advancement.)
Typically the first year after this reunion is full of trial and test. Situations vary, but the pair must fight to find their way back together. Sometimes the obstacles are external, and sometimes this is where the sorting of personal issues must take place. This last year is trying time, failing to sort things out will part the pair until the next attempt. The separation will be complete if one of the pair fails to sort out her/his issues there will be no middle ground such as staying together but not completing the task or taking some less intense version of the relationship. At this stage, it’s all or nothing deal.
The twin soul pair is going to complete a life task together in service of people, animals or the planet, but what we typically associate with this is tasks of those twin souls in Server or Priest roles, but you won’t get a Mother Theresa out of a Warrior no matter what their soul age level is! The task will be in alignment with their spiritual role and their personal strengths.
By now, all the mystical twin soul signs and abilities are in effect in a form or another, and some can be learned (such as telepathic meeting in a “virtual reality” sort of imagined location). (The signs/abilities are normally “available” from Adult soul age 6 onwards in all twin soul unions and it depends on the pair which ones they find the most natural. These abilities can be learned by accident or with practise.)
This reunion does not necessarily mark the final life time, obviously this is the case with the level 5 Old Souls. In case of level 7′s however, they will be “free to leave” should they so wish, but they’d be mad to. Luckily God has granted us free will, and not one of us is forced to leave the planet until we want to. Tell your high selves to consider this carefully, because they are better aware of what this actually means than what you will be. The New Awareness has already reached you high selves, but is not yet generic knowledge amongst humans.
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Hello, I have been reading through some of your blogs and saw this one and was very interested. Since august 2011 I have been researching twin flames since I believe I found and lost mine, even though I had never heard of the concept while we were together… [REST OF THE COMMENT REMOVED BY A'S REQUEST - Too personal.
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About clearing karma and spiritual work, personally I don’t believe in that theory for the simple reason that guys won’t do it.
There might be a few, but for the vast majority they won’t know what twin souls are, and that’s why they won’t focus on clearing their karma or doing spiritual work in order to find the girl of their dreams, so that theory is iffy to say the least. Not that it wouldn’t be a good idea, but it’s more efficient to just tell the universe that you are ready to receive his love again. Hopefully, he’ll get the message and come “running”.
As for your doubts about whether or not this is your twin soul – it is. Finding your twin soul is not as uncommon as other theorists like to think, this is not a reward that you get for being a good girl, this is something that happens because you can’t be separate. People like to mystify this thing in order to make themselves feel superior, but this is not what this should be about. This is about two souls that are so much in love with each other that any separation is pain – but having said that, without the separation the union won’t be as…. I can’t find the words for it, really.
However, the classic twin soul reunion is a bit rare, and the awareness that goes with it makes it hard for other people to understand this… So talking to friends is often quite futile… Especially if they’ve never seen you two together, but even if they have, they might not have the required awareness to really get what is happening.
How old are you now? If this reunion happens in the classic theme, he might not be back until you’re older, nearing 40 or thereabouts. However, I do believe that you can change this if you decide you cannot face a life without him – and if he feels the same way about you. You just need to find a way to communicate with your spirit guides who will probably be able to help you there. Check out the (free) pendulum ebook we have out there, that might help you get ahead. (Sorry for the crap name.
We seriously need to come up with a better title for that book. XD)
Thank you for your comment – very interesting story!!
Thank you for this article. I am currently separated from my TF for 2 months now. We’re both in our 40s and actually had our first reunion 10 years ago when we cultivated a beautiful friendship in which I had never felt such emotional security and ability to be vulnerable. We had a falling out after we got physically intimate, although we didn’t “go all the way”. I came away from that encounter very disappointed because it didn’t live up to the fantasy I had about us being together. Shortly after that we stopped talking. Now, 10 years later we were brought back together 4 months ago in a totally new and heightened awareness of each other. We had all the signs of TF reunion. We picked up where we left off 10 years ago with the closeness and the bonding. We had amazing telepathic communication and our physical intimacy was totally different this time and we have incredible chemistry. We literally go into a different world when we kiss. However, a month after the “honeymoon” was over we started having problems. It was 2 1/2 months after reuniting that we had our first physical encounter of actually “going all the way” a couple of months ago. He never called after that. I contacted him and he said he was not happy about the fact that something I said to someone else got back to him. He hasn’t contacted me since. I contacted him 2 weeks after that to ask if it was over and still no reply. I noticed in the beginning of our relationship each time there would be a rift between us our connection would erode a little more and now I don’t feel him with me anymore. He’s the only man that making love to ever really felt right and complete with, like we had the permission of heaven. I became so mad that he wouldn’t talk to me. I started having negative thoughts about him and being really angry. I cut our energetic cords and told myself I would move on. I’m over the anger. Now I’m so scared we won’t find our way back to each other because the feeling we used to share of being in each other’s hearts wherever we were is gone. Can that feeling come back? Is it normal for the feeling to be completely gone and then return one day? What does it mean that it is gone? Any guidance you could provide would be much appreciated. Thank you so much!
Some twin souls have several fall outs before they settle down with each other. There is an incredible bond that scares you both, and sometimes you do need to shut down all emotion completely in order to heal it. This happened to me too, I managed to block my feelings fro my twin soul for a few years completely… So much so that I wondered what it was that I ever saw in him. (You might be aware that Anton is unincarnated, but he had a soul brading experience with another man, so that I could meet him in physical form. Soul brading, in all practicality means a split personality; Two separate souls in one body.) So yes, to answer your question, the feelings can come back, and probably will return quite unexpectedly.
Some twin souls like to have a bit of drama before romance, so there you go. Your souls must think it will be a bliss coming back together.
Can you give more info about soul brading? Where can I find info about it on the net or books? I suspect one of my friends has this.
My information is quite limited and theoretical at this stage, I haven’t got an example of a permanent double soul situation, but I have temporarily shared my own body with another soul. It is a very rare thing to have two souls “on” at the same time, usually they switch places (disassociative identity disorder as psychology calls it – I think they’re the same) but to have two personalities exist at the same time is difficult to manage and understand. I can’t tell you anything more but to google…
Thank you so much for your prompt and thoughtful reply
This is what I do this for. <3
Hi Spirit Skye, I wonder if you can tell me about my experience I have with my 3rd eye. When my TF and I reunited we kissed and connected our foreheads and I felt something activate in my 3rd eye. Ever since then I’ve felt it (except when I cut cords with him a month ago I included the 3rd eye and the feeling went away and slowly came back). I’m feeling it and sometimes I do even if my thoughts of him aren’t that nice or sometimes when I’m thinking of something unrelated to him. When I’ve done tarot card readings to see how he feels about me I sometimes get that he doesn’t feel loving towards me at all, but still I feel the 3rd eye. Is it to show me we’re still connected or is it part of me waking up and developing more intuition? I meditated for a couple of years with my 3rd eye as my focus before we reunited and I never felt it vibrate. It wasn’t until he and I got together.
If this is your twin soul, you’ll be forever connected. Whether you feel the connection or not, is another thing, but obviously you do still feel it. It’s also not a this or that question, it could be both at the same time. I have a heart chakra connection myself, and I think I do consider that a sign that there is… someone at the other end.
I met my twin soul last yr in October through internet. Though it took me time to realize but he sort of knew from the beginning. We wrote lots of poetry together which no one but us understood. Many strange things started happening with time. His writing/drawing, me having it in my dream. Coming across same book one evening without any plans. Writing similar stories & later finding it written on the same date. His debit card had my birth date as password! We met just once about which i still distinctly remember. Started working together (All online) people thought we were dating, some even thought that we were married. Both of us were very similar but still complementary and when we were together (about 5-6 months) nothing seems to matter. But after awhile things got messy since he had an on/off relationship with another girl for almost 5 yrs which although was on rocks but still being a man he was hanging on to it. And i was bruised by a recently ended relationship. So i ended it on my b’day in march. It was all strange because we came from totally different background, religion, upbringing. But i saw a pattern, the childhood yrs good for him, were bad for me & vice versa. Some how i see this pattern even now while when we were together everything was balanced for both of us. What we experienced together in that short duration was better than anything i can imagine.
After that he never spoke to me, changed all his numbers, we changed places. But somehow he started reading my work & commenting on it on his page. So on/off but indirect communication. but 1.5 months back, he wrote a poem on his age for ‘us’ & i replied by writing on my page. Same day, even my love horoscope was to-the-point true so i forwarded him thru email which he forwarded to his gf! she replied questioning my motive & this really hurt me & since then i dont communicate in any form with him.
On August 10 I found out, he had a breakdown or something and has run off without any phone or information about his whereabouts. Now, I’m terribly worried & helpless & cant focus anywhere. Help! Would we ever be together? I have cleared my emotions but would he come to a conclusion? I have no way to reach him but there’s always this feeling of his being around and us being connected.
Many thanks in anticipation
Keep working (or start working) on law of attraction, clearing your emotions is a great, now you have to create a love vacuum – something that you need and want so much you can taste it… Make it real for yourself, see yourself in the situation you want to be in, and hopefully things will improve. He might still hold onto his side of the bargain, but your situation doesn’t sound hopeless at all… It’s quite common for people to get freaked out at this stage and develop feelings for someone who is easier to deal with – milder. Don’t worry.
I’m not questioning whether he is my TF, but why I feel my 3rd eye vibrate- like what’s the purpose? I’ve heard people feel this before their 3rd eye is completely awakened and they move to a new level of intuition. Maybe that’s the reason. It’s just that I never felt it do that before him, so I wonder if it’s supposed to be giving me a message about our connection or just a sign my 3rd eye is awakening. We had a heart connection from the very beginning. We felt connected and aware of each other at all times. It’s when we would have problems in the relationship that this connection began to weaken with each problem. I no longer feel him in my heart. I remember the last time was a couple of months ago when I felt only an echo and then nothing. It was like we didn’t exist in each other’s space like that anymore. We were together one last time after that and had our first night of complete intimacy and it was amazing in the sense of feeling so right, but still no rejoining of the heart connection.
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C’mon…that’s crazy. Everybody knows those ages are totally wrong. It happens between ages 33 and 55 of course!!!
OK, sorry, just couldn’t resist. But seriously, just where did the idea of 35 to 54 come from? That is pretty specific
Regards
stu
Well, let’s just say that the normal age cap that people give is about 40 to 45, so I’m being rather liberal in comparison, and no, that is not to say it can’t happen at other ages, just saying “typically”. And yeah, I probably should have gone 55, but there you go. It’s just to give you an idea.
Thanks for the comment. Means a lot.
NICE!!! REALLY NICE!!!
So, not only can you take a slight challenge, makes things interesting, but you also have a sense of humor, I love it. Sending your response at 11:11. C’mon, don’t tell me that was a coincidence. Just how long did you sit there with your trigger finger on the mouse in wait?
OK, I have read through the vast majority of your site, all in short order as it was rather interesting. And from one who has, in his own opinion at least, had the the REAL TS experience there is a lot I could and maybe would like to comment on at some time in the future. Are you potentially up for it? Needless to say, there are some things I find challenging in your take of the subject matter. I don’t if care it goes on the blog or stays between us.
Regards
stu
P.S: NOT waiting till 11:11, sending NOW!!!
Yeah, that was actually a coincidence the 11:11, and I didn’t even notice. I’ve been waiting to see those for so long and I never catch them.
Anyway, yes comments are always welcome, either on the blog comments or email, I need to hear what people experience, especially the male voice needs to be heard.
Jeepers, I hope Stu posts some more. He sounds like a pistol! Not only is a man, but he has met his TF, and he has things to say about. Very interesting.
Hey Skye, Would you talk about clearing your emotions? I am looking into/trying/want to be an anchor for my twin. Is that part of the process? Either in an article or on the forum I’d like to know more about what is involved in getting oneself ready for that! – Thanks!
I have something on that topic over here: http://www.twinsoulrevelations.org/twin-souls/twin-soul-problems/stop-twin-soul-running-phase/
I met my ts in 2004 8 years ago now,we had a very brief encounter that was very magical and intense as you call it,since then ive been in a 7 year relationship and have 4 kids with another man and i believe my ts is married.but lately ive been having dreams of my ts and feeel like a meeting is coming soon,its ben 8 years since we last saw each other or spoke but still having deep feelings for him.im still with my childrens father but not in love with him anymore i still love him just not in lovee anymore.
Sorry I didn’t reply sooner – for some reason my spam filter caught this, no idea why. Anyway… I know what you mean about the love being different. May I ask – how difficult was it to decide to marry someone else just about a year after meeting your twin soul? What motivated you? I am curious, because, although I too ended up into a 7 year marriage with someone else, it took me 5 years to tear myself from the hope that one day my TS would be mine… And then the pull started. (Luckily I don’t have children so I’m basically free to go…)
hi, i’m hoping you could explain why possibly a set of twins would be more intense than others? I believe I have been going through a twin flame journey and the energy between us has certainly been intense from beginning to end. we first met as children and seemed to be drawn like magnets to one another. i certainly felt there was a resonance between us and although we were very young i was aware that he seemed to mirror my energy and feelings. upon eye contact we would begin glowing and smiling and literally be drawn to one another. we would find a place to be alone and would esentially “hump” one another, perhaps too young to take on any other action or even understand the reason behind this action. i imagine we were trying to express our feelings and desire to unite and this was the only way we had come to understand at this point. while together i was aware of a feeling of something special as well as an intense desire to be with him and not to part. it was also a feeling that i could only amount to him being “mine”. day after day over probably a few weeks, without any agreement or plan, we would seek one another and repeat this behaviour. one day his family moved and i just happened to be headed toward his house to see them in the process. he happened to be standing in his front yard and i remember we both stood starring at one another from a distance in utter disbelief that we would have to separate. in november of last year we reconnected over facebook after more than a decade and as before it has felt as though there is intense pulling and desire to unite and to just merge together. when we are in one another’s presence i feel a burning inside to be as close to him as possible, as though being wrapped and intertwined while cuddling isnt enough, i seem to want to just fuse right into him. i feel that for this reason we both have extreme desire to make love and usually do so for very long periods of time. we have both expressed the desire to make love forever and that we feel it could never be enough. i also feel intense burning and energy when we are physically close together, a feeling that gives me the most comfort, joy and pleasure, yet somehow is nearly unbareable. based on these realzations among others, as well as us having met as children and being separated i would imagine that were we twins we would be considered more intense. i am just curious if there is any partiular reason for any added intensity as i assumed twin flames all shared such intensity. i thank you for your insight
Your connection is definitely on the intense end of the scale, but not all Twin Souls get there. Some share a nice comfortable bond that is unbreakable, but nothing as intense as you’re describing. They don’t even share the signs of Twin Soul relationships, but nonetheless are so, and it’s sometimes hard to tell if they are or not. The Twin Soul signs are more “definitely” signs, but even if there is nothing more than intense love it can be a Twin Soul relationship. They will “just know” that they are supposed to be together, and separation is not an option for them like it is for a normal married couple for instance.
The reason for this is that the more ‘us’ we become in our incarnations, the stronger the pull will be. The psyche will usually protect us from anything that is too much to handle, and one of those things is a Twin Soul bond. The bond is still there, but we don’t necessarily feel it. The more aware we become, (psyche allows more information in) the more intensely we feel the connection. This doesn’t mean we are ‘better’ than anyone else, it just means a different level of self-awareness, and then there’s all sorts of issues that come to play which makes the relationship turbulent or calm or whatever, so the relationship isn’t exactly a proof of “last incarnation” or spiritual advancement just because it exists. There’s all sorts of different factors in play. (There’s a few posts on the blog about these things if you’re curious.)
Your story brought tears in my eyes, the thought of your Twin moving away… Good God that must have been sheer pain. :´(
Thank you so much for your reply. I can certainly understand how you would be more drawn together once you become more of yourself and of your vibration.
You mentioned the signs being more definite signs and I am curious as to whether or not signs are more strongly present for those who would otherwise be blind to realizing their twin soul?
also, i understand that there are specific signs that are symptomatic of the twin soul experience, yet i also wonder if it is usually the case that we would experience signs that would be most clear to us as individuals? for example in my case, while talking to the man I believe to be my twin over facebook for the first time in over a decade, I began looking through his photos and came across one photo that seemed particularly special. I was fixated on this photo and my reaction to his image were words like “oh my god” and “why do you look like that?” he seemed to look… perfect. not to any particular standard but perfect to me. This photo reminded me of my favourite photo that i had taken of my boyfriend at the time and I decided to go onto his facebook account to find it. When I found the photo, I realized that they were both very similar photos, frighteningly so. They took on the same stance and had the same facial expression and same hair style. I scrolled down and I realized that I had commented “mi amor, for sure you’re hispanic.” My boyfriend at the time wasn’t even hispanic but actually Jamaican and French Canadian yet still for some reason this is what i had chosen to comment and I realized i had encouraged him to grow out his hair and wear it in a ponytail which I for some reason really preferred. The man who I believe to be my twin is hispanic and regualrly wore his hair in a ponytail just as he did in the picture that has such an effect on me. It nearly frightened me as I had the thought that perhaps I had been looking for my twin all along without knowing who exactly I was looking for, to the point that I was trying to find him in someone else.
the second sign that i felt was tailored for me was when I learned accidentally that his ex girlfriend and my now ex boyfriend share a birthday. i was on her facebook page one day after being told that he had a child with her. i felt that through facebook i could investigate and find out the truth. it turns out the child is not his, to my relief, and while on her page i came across the date of her birthday. he told me she was the girl he had loved, and i felt the same way about my ex though both relationships came to and end that showed otherwise. I thought maybe this was an indication that we had both been looking for eachother in other people. another sign was that he and his mother had a turbulent relationship and actually fought physically on many occasions while he was growing up which was also the case for myself and my mother. he is the only person who has ever told me that he and his mother had been in physical fights. I am just curious if this is the universe’s way of best showing me the connection? i have also experienced most of the more universal twin soul signs but i am just wondering if it is usually the case that we experience signs of our own.
lastly, one night while laying and talking with him side by side we both turned simultaneously facing one another and locked eyes and suddenly this warm rush of energy passed through me and the words “i love you” literally started to speak from my mouth without my control. i caught myself half way through the word “you”, covered my face in disbelief, turned away and began to cry as i was so overwhelmed by what had just happened. he turned me back over, embraced me and kissed my on my forehead and it felt as though he understood. i am wondering if you could shed any light on what happened in that moment? i suppose it has something to do with the eyes and the soul but im unsure and i’ve been hoping to understand it as it was such an overwhelming and unexplainable experience for me. sorry there is so much to address and thank you once again!
The signs are not dependent on the level of awareness, I take them more as a cute way of pointing things out, like an extra little play from the universe. Birthdays are interesting indeed.
I definitely know what you mean about looking for a certain type. I have a thing for long haired guys too, and a clear preference for guys that look like Jesus. XD (When I was younger, I thought Jesus was hot in the very physical sense.
Uhm… Still do. :p) Anyway, that is what Anton looks like. The Twins can also look very similar to yourself, and could pass for your relatives sometimes. But looking for your twin soul in another person, yes, that can happen – they also do have concurrent incarnations that can “keep an eye on you” whilst they can’t be there themselves. My Twin Soul the Monkey Man has a sister who is my own incarnation, and my father’s soul is the same as my Wild Horse’s. So women who are looking for men that look like their father don’t necessarily have father issues, I don’t think – at least I don’t. :p Also, The Monkey Man is to me the most different Twin Soul that I have (I shouldn’t have named the site twinsoulrevelations because “twin” doesn’t quite cut it) and with him I have these “secondary” signs more than with the other two.
In that moment, when you said “I love you” without thinking it, could have been actually you saying out loud what he was thinking.
Sounds crazy, but similar things have happened to me and my Twins. One of the oddest ones is that I’ve developed a ‘gulp’ that makes me swallow like a man when I get nervous – because my Wild Horse does that. XD (Crazy stuff…)
Hi Spirit Skye! I believe i found my twin soul online just over a year ago. We quickly fell into an online relationship & the feelings from both of us have been so intense, a true soul connection & such a longing to be together that at times has felt physically painful. We have a strong intuitive & telepathic bond often saying the same thing at the same time or he asking a question while i’m inadvertently answering that question with a statement at the exact same time. I have had physical symptoms when he has been ill & can feel his energy around me. I often wake from a deep sleep at the exact time he goes online. There is an age gap of 12 years with me being 36 & he 24, i am separated with 3 kids & he will have to have an arranged marriage. Due to this he has recently decided that we should just be friends as the pain of separation is almost unbearable now let alone if we were to continue. What i’m wondering is, in your opinion, does a twin soul reunion always eventually lead to a physical coming together as i have read conflicting views on this & if not what is the purpose of us finding each other with no hope of one day being together? Thank you!
The purpose of finding each other without getting back together would be exactly that; experience the pain of separation, experience the love you can feel for a person you cannot have, the torment, everything that goes with it. What ever we experience is in itself a purpose, but at the same time… I don’t think that’s set in stone what is going to happen, the other purpose of this may be that are you going to just let go of your love or are you going to fight for it against your traditions and conventions – which is more important to you, reputation or your love?
Thank you for your reply! I only found your site yesterday so have gradually been reading through different articles to give me some understanding & i guess hope for the situation. The thought that we may have come together to experience a year of bliss & a love that i never thought possible, only to have to spend the rest of our lives in torment apart is terrifying. You describe word for word my current feelings in your article- Signs you have met your twin flame- “You will be crying in pain for your twin soul. You’ll feel dead without them – suicidal in many cases. (Myself included.) There is no extreme greater than what a twin soul will do to you. You would sacrifice your children for them…”. So that’s exactly where i’m at & the only thing keeping me going is the hope that he will eventually realise that this connection we have is worth standing up to his family & their beliefs. He has said that he would marry me if we were closer in age which obviously i can do nothing about, although i do look young for my age! I think the fact that i am his first love & first relationship makes things so much harder as he has nothing to compare these feelings to & probably thinks all love feels like this. So i will continue to work on myself & try to hold on to that hope with the knowledge that eventually, whether in life or spirit we will one day be together. I just want to thank you for providing your knowledge in such an easy to read & understand format & giving me somewhere to talk about & make sense of my feelings. It’s the first time i’ve done so as due to our cultural & age difference i haven’t felt able to discuss this with anyone, so feeling very alone at the moment but it has helped immensely letting it all out & knowing others have had to endure the same pain & survived!
Even if he marries don’t lose all hope, this is where his love is tested… Hopefully he will realize what this is sooner rather than later…
Thank You Skye for this amazing informative site you have. I would greatly appreciate your view as I am struggling to decipher the signs I am receiving…. In a nutshell, I believed I had met my twin who is definitely a ‘runner.’ Our first meeting was the catalyst for life-changes for me and the connection immediate. After one of his running episodes, I decided to date another person who I have incredible compatibility with. However I find now I am the one is constantly running from this connection to the point where I find myself using the same lines on him that my runner used on me, without even realising till afterwards. My confusion is, I feel in my heart the first guy is my twin but he comes forward then runs again even though the warmth and friendship actually seems to grow each time we reconnect – This has been going on for 4 years. We had opportunities for intimacy but I pulled back, he felt rejected, then ran again. Oops! Meanwhile Guy no.2 has been remarkably patient with my running episodes on him. And he telepathically just seems to ‘know’ when I’m upset. And yet I can telepathically feel Guy No.1′s upsets. I see 11:11, 22:22 and lately 44:44 all the time. I get signs for both guys – really spookily obvious ones.
Is either of these my twin? Did I get it wrong with the first guy? If I commit to Guy number 2 and stop running, what is the likelihood of guy No.1 coming bak to upset the applecart? Or will the Universe eventually make it abundantly clear for me…. Any guidance would be most appreciated.
You may want to check out my other (newer) blog about mirror spirits, which is a twin soul thing but acknowledging the possibility of multiple romantic “twin souls”: http://www.unforgettablesoulmates.com You might have two or a few, as long as they fit together as well. Take a read.
Thank You SO much for that Skye. Have just read all the Mirror Spirit info on your site and found it Fascinating. Sounds a bit like Soul Groups..? You have given me clarity and shocked me into realising I’ve been running towards the wrong guy and away from the right one! It’s laughable. Silly Me!! Well Thank You again for such a wonderful educating site
x
Yes, I call them twin soul groups on this site. Some call them soul families, but they are twin souls of different intensity level and roles. I didn’t think you’d come to that conclusion (wrong guy) I thought they both sounded like mr. Right.
I find myself at a struggle to find the words to begin this topic, so I will type my thoughts as they flow. I have recently found my Twin Soul, and have been re-united with her for 1 1/2 months now. Everything leading up to this point in my life has clearly paved the way to prepare for her, for my heart, mind and soul to be fittingly conditioned for her so that the Universe could call out to her once our frequencies started to balance. I could list pages and pages of my life references as proof of how I know she is my twin soul, where all those references would be life events that have prepared me and paved the way to this point in time. Precisely, and remarkably, and in many ways choatically beautiful.
The final act was launching my own company 4 months ago for the greater good of other people in need of the service that I have dedicated the last 4 years to developing it, along with risking everything I have and leaving my professional career to pursue this dream. My Twin, a lost soul 6 years younger than me (both in our 20′s still) having the lifelong dream to work in the field that my company is focused on.
Upon initially meeting her as an applicant for our job posts we were needing to fill, I immediately felt something profound about her presence. It wasn’t in infatuation for a beautiful, flawless young woman, but instead a deep connection from the soul that felt like magnetism, drawing me towards her. We both felt it, and every single day that has gone by we have grown together to have formed the strongest love we both would have never thought imaginable. I wrote her a letter today, and one of the paragraphs were “My desire to touch you is to show affection, not out of lust. The desire to look at you is out of admiration, not attraction. The desire to love you is out of need, not want.” As a young man who has had many relationships with beautiful woman, I confidently acknowledge that this is greater and more pure than what one would have expected between two attractive people. Our level of intimacy is hugging, holding hands, laying in each others arms, just being with each other. Neither of us have any desire to kiss or have sexual intercourse. We are perfectly in sync and are of equal emotions towards each other, neither of us feels as if the other is imposing too much or acknowledging too little. Its astounding how in balance we are; I am her and she is me, without a doubt.
I however am married, for 2 years. My relationship with my wife (who I have been with collectively for 8 years) has been dwindling for the duration of our marriage. While there are always two sides to a story, the primary reason why this is happening is because my wife is no longer the woman I married. Nonetheless, I see this as part of the reunion process, for if my marriage was any less in dispute then perhaps I would not have been open to accepting my Twin Soul given the fact that on face value she could be labelled as a threat, or worse ‘the bosses floozy’. She, in a relationship for 4 years with a loving but unfortunately very jealous boyfriend, has also been struggling with him for reasons not necessary to describe here. The interesting observation though is that not only is it mentioned in writings about twin souls that at least one Twin Soul is usually married. In addition, we are both having troubles with our soul mate relationships because they lack selflessness and unconditional love. The mere fact that we find that within in each other now, is what makes us want to spend as much time together as we can. Which, as can be expected, is causing problems within our personal relationships, unfortunately more her side than mine. My wife is accepting of it, only because I made her get used to to me having a female best friend for the last 12 years, something she had to accept the very first day we pursued a relationship, 8 years ago. Where that too was in preparation for me being able to provide my Twin Soul with the love and attention she deserves while having to maintain a marriage.
My ultimate question is: at this early stage of our relationship (we only met 1 1/2 months ago) and given the brief details of our personal lives mentioned here; would you be able to share any advice with regards to what the appropriate way is for us to still love and care for our partners and work through our problems, while still being able to keep each other’s much-needed company? Neither of us wish to leave our partners so that we can be together or romantically involved, however neither of us want to remain in relationships that are unfulfilling, lacking love, and unwilling to allow us to be friends, due to insecurities and jealousy. If we are forced to, we both are willing to choose each other over our partners, but will not actively seek to ruin what we have and appreciate with them.
It sounds to me that you are not sexual Twin Souls, so you may have to accept something as finding your sexual Twin Souls to complete that union – but perhaps not in this life time. (Check this out: http://www.unforgettablesoulmates.com/mirror-souls/mirror-souls/) It would be important for your partners – whether they are the ones that you are with now or someone else – to understand that your friendship is that of close siblings rather than lovers. (A relationship that still can be romantic, although it’s not sexual.) I would imagine, that since this connection of yours is so strong, it needs a balance of your sexual Twin Souls to come into it – and since you are young still I’d imagine that they are on their way but you two had to meet first or this connection wouldn’t have happened the same way that it did now.
The appropriate way to do this is not really the question, the question is how are your partners going to feel about it. It’s up to them to choose whether they can accept your friendship or not, and if they are uncomfortable with it, then you must find partners who are. There are no rules to these relationships, we must just trust our instincts.
I have a great wish that every single person going through this great love and great torment can put themselves at ease. Four days ago I decided I would kill myself over this. I was mentally preparing my suicide whereas before I had only considered the act. I felt I couldn’t live without having the love of such a union in my life. I was convinced he would never again be part of my life. Yesterday morning he returned.
Life is so unpredictable. You can contemplate this to the extreme but I have realized you never know. All you can do is accept what you have in this very moment and be greatful for the magnitude of love you have come to know. It is our capacity for love that is most important. And the depth of pain, though seemingly a torturous curse, is really the love itself forcing a greater and opening to contain this love. There are no guarantees and I’ve put so much energy in trying to be assured that he will return. And yet it made no difference. Still I was feeling such pain that I wanted to take my very life. Pain that I failed to see was the strength of my love. So I beg that we all take this energy and turn it toward ourselves so that we realize how we have grown as beings of love and what capacity we have for loving. This is the goal, we are acheiving it. It is my wish for all of us to realize this. Peace peace peace and so much love.
Suicidal thoughts are quite common with Twin Souls I’d guess… Somehow we’re so often ran right to the edge before we get our salvation. I’m nearing my edge too – nooot too dangerously close yet, but I’ve taken a glance over too. I cannot tell you how much your words reassured me that there is an end to this, and that it can come at the darkest of times.
This is an interesting factor because I too had thoughts of just giving up on life, it was at this point my Twin Soul came into my life, at the right time. I think the fact that we all share such similar emotions and experiences reassures us that we’re not as alone as we think. If only other people were loving, selfless, and open enough to talk about it or give in to exploring their feelings on the topic. Surely these awakenings and reunions – especially in this year 2012 – are not as few and far between as we think they are. Maybe we all know at least one person who are going through the same thing, and if everyone knew at least one person, well then that would be a very comforting number ^^,)
It’s going to become a well known phenomena through this reunion that is taking place. Out of my personal friends – not counting the website – I have at least 4 of my friends in a twin soul relationship, possibly more. Of course, not all of them are obvious twin souls, but I know that they are, and would probably announce that they know what this is about if it became a public discussion topic.
I hope you can help me, I have been getting urging to read about these twin souls and am now really in awe. Long short…I met my now ex husband (married 20yr)after my previous husband passed. We connected instantly and we were married 6 weeks later, had a son within a yr…wow it’s was amazing the first 2 yrs, the connection… finished each others sentences, knew each other thoughts, sex WOW! etc…
After that we moved to his hometown and everything went down hill fast…he turned to be everything I would never had picked as a mate, this side of him came out, full of anger, very aggressive, couldn’t hold a job, he was bitter, stoled and vandelized people stuff, (which I was fully against) he was abusive verbally/emotionally/mentally, spoke horrible behind my back, everything point to sociopath/narcissist personality disorder, ugh! Caught him in emotional affair, porn addiction and look for hookers online
After 18 yrs and finding that stuff, I finally filed for divorce and separated from him…that’s when I kept seeing 11:11 everywhere. after 7 months of going through hell, him not talking to me, treating me horrible, telling lies of why we split to everyone… he convinced me to give it another try and I did. Boom sparks flew again, we were happy he was trying to be happy, positive, as I had become more aligned with my spiritual self/soul the previous few years, which he thought was silly.
Within 2 yrs his normal behaviors explained above were back, not working, very negative, miserable demeanor. So I asked him to move a couple a days a week with mom and stay here a few days as we worked through it again, he agreed. Next I knew, without saying a word to me he chose to move in full time with his friend. After a month he called me to inform me he met a woman the 1st night he left here, had been dating someone & had moved in with her 2 weeks prior to telling me & was string me along during the time he romance her. Needless to say I was devastated that I was thrown over so quickly after 20 yrs and 2 sons later, without warning. He said, we couldn’t be near each other as if we did, we would only be back in the bedroom and back together. That we both knew our marriage was over years ago.
He claimed she told him, she had a crush on him in high school yet he didn’t know her, then proceeded to talk about all her stuff she owns and money she makes. And to top it off he is now back to not talking to me, calling me names and even avoiding our sons games.
I became so depressed, thought of suicidal as I didn’t know how to go on with this pain I’ve never experienced from a break up. I think of him no matter how hard I try not too…Sadly I get this distinct feeling he will be back when this relationship he is in ends. But I know he has no faith in anything, he has told… there is no god, no heaven…when we die we just die. Also he never learns any lessons and keep repeating them over and over without thinking of the consequence to hisself or family, just as he did with his choice with this new gf.
I am actually terrified in a way if he is my twin soul as everything described is there but the his behavior and lifestyle is one I can’t live with.
do you think this separation will help him grow and see his changes? or am I in for more of the same if reunite
Yes you will be in for more of the same if you go back together. I believe he is your twin soul, but also an NPD. Have you ever met anyone who would have the same kind of connection to you? Unexplainable? Because we do know there are more than one twin soul out there for most of us, we just need to open ourselves to the possibility of finding them. It’s the theory of one twin soul that keeps us locked in these relationships, because we can’t expect to find something like this with anyone else. Have a look at my other website where I discuss this multiple twin soul thing in more depth; http://www.unforgettablesoulmates.com/featured/mirror-souls/
Yes, I have read through the different articles. I had a very strong connection with my husband that passed away. Other then that I can not say I’ve had any one I connected to as I have my ex and him with I. We both have pushed away throughout the 20 yrs, became stubborn, critical and judgmental…a two way street.
When I would be ready to end our marriage many times throughout the 20 yrs, he would then try again and communication would be great and we got along good, but he would always revert back into his self, like I was his against him & stop communicating and we would fall back into pattern of dysfunction.
I know he carries a lot of hurt and pain in him from childhood that has caused him to be bitter and full of anger, stuffs everything instead of dealing with it. He blames everyone else, instead of accepting responsibility for his own actions. Has low self esteem and needs to draw attention to himself to build it up.
When this new woman he is currently with throws him out, which I saw occurring February/March time, it will do one of two things with him…create more resentment, self dislike or help him to see what we have is amazing if he would allow himself to let go and truly to be loved.
I have had to do a lot of growing myself spirituality to understand all this. I also had many hurts, pains to heal and have just recently healed a huge one. As my own pain and hurt was a part of the problem too as he said, I had to let him love me, let him in and stop closing myself off.
5-6 yrs ago is when it got really bad, after I was unable to work due a health problem, he changed into a person I didn’t know. Became all about money, had to carry lots with him, would show it off, which was embarrassing. My oldest son (who is close to him) is saying, mom, he is going through the mid life crisis thing…I know he still loves you deeply, give him time.
I understand how he feels that he must feel mad at me, not talk to me as he knows our connection is strong and will pull us to each other, which I think also scares him, that he isn’t believing he is deserving of such a deep love, just as I had felt too.
When we were in zinc it was amazing, but when we let the fear in, it was rough. They say after the end of a relationship it gets easier, and I agree as with others I’ve been in…But this is different, I feel like a huge part of me is dead and it’s only getting stronger as I still feel a very strong connection to him.
I also realize I made several mistakes this last time by putting him second after helping my daughter and grandchildren all summer which left no time for us. Which he started to resent by taking it out on them, which is why I asked him to take a break and stay a couple days at his moms.
So hope this helps you to understand why this is so confusing to me, as I know twin souls separate till they have learned and are ready to grow together in oneness again
Too true, it’s extremely difficult to say sometimes whether this is NPD or a Twin Soul… And in case he’s both, that’s going to be tough. The only thing you can do is to figure out whether you’re happier alone or with him, you’ll love him either way, but which way is going to make it possible for you to be the happiest?
I met my twin flame this summer in September. he is 8 years younger than me. I was with another man he was with another girl when we met. Then we found ourselves in this roller coaster ride. we live in separate cities and I feel him so strong. I swear I saw God in his eyes.. I was trying hard to continue the communication as he is not a communicative type and had physical relations all his life. when I pull back he was the one calling me testing if I’M still there.. Now since a month I am in a separate continent and I will be here for another month.. Although I called him multiple times, he never attempted to communicate with me. Today is his birthday and I pray god that we met. Called him multiple times again.. No reply..
so I find this so hard to cope with because all I want is to hear his voice and wish him a happy birthday and his ego (I accept I have ego issues as well) is very destructive and I don’T know how to deal with all this..
I decided not to call him again, clean my energy maybe I can move on? BUt it doesn’t seem so.. So we are all in this mess and it feels like slow death..
any suggestions? PLease..
Love
Maybe you should stop calling him and trying to get him to communicate… Maybe he will later, and maybe you can move on. You know there’s more than one twin soul, right? I call them Mirror Spirits because that doesn’t suggest a pair but a potential group. Please check out my other blog that is dedicated to this concept, and see if you find anything to look for. http://www.unforgettablesoulmates.com
Hi, I wasn’t aware of twin flames until over the past six months. I am currently 31 and have been married since the age of 28. My marriage has always lacked a sense of connection due to in-law issues and other things but I love my husband but not sure if we have been in love. I had a dream of a tall man and later dreamed that I fell in love with someone other than my husband shortly after that an old college flame that I had a hard time getting over contacted me and I instantly cut off contact with him in fear that he reflected the dream. So fast forward two years from that point we recently moved and I met a neighbor who is single and tall and shares a birthday in the same month as the guy I thought the dream was about. After our first meeting I didn’t feel a serious connection but his attempts to chat afterwards with me increased (I have never contemplated cheating on my husband no matter how bad things might have gotten)
Our conversations were always short but I could tell there was a physcial attraction. Well we finally met at a park to chat we shared similar childhoods and just being near him left me with a level of comfort that I didn’t share verbally but he did. He is more expressive verbally than I am. From our conversation I have learned that we both started suffering from vertigo during the same years before knowing one another, we position our hands the same way.
I don’t feel guilty about the feelings we share I can feel a pull from him at times that I can’t shake and strangely enough when we talk again he will mention thinking about me and it would be around the same time I felt this pull.
We have a ton of fun when we are together it’s as if we have known each other all of our lives. I am just unsure if this is a twin flame. I’m just sad that I am married (I have no kids and before meeting him I had a miscarriage with my husband that I didn’t feel terribly sad about which I felt was strange)
Does this sound like anything or am I…
…crazy? No, you’re not crazy. This is what it’s like, and they often come into your life after you marry for some strange reason, which I believe to test your love for him and your love for convention and society enforced rules on love. Which is more important to you/humanity in general, they want to know. There is no wrong answer as long as you’re happy, he’s happy and you make sure your happiness creates as little disruption as possible.
I’m glad you don’t have children, better keep it that way: at least don’t get tempted to have children in order to force yourself to stay in the marriage.
Wow, I’ve read books and books on soul mates and twin flames and never knew until now that it was typical to meet when you are young and then again in your early 40s. That would make my TF encounter a textbook case.
I definitely had inklings he was on his way the second time, and though we are not in contact and I’ve never had any real world affirmation from him, I feel his energy in lots of different ways several times a day – which continues to surprise me given I’m not in the least bit psychic. (before meeting him I thought chakras were just some imaginary New Age thing)
But despite the certainty, the knowing, the amazing, awesome, multifaceted connection, I still have this huge worry that I’ve superimposed this spiritual link on to some poor, random, unknowing guy (he is pretty cute). The very few friends I’ve confided in assure me that this IS the case.
So I carry on with my life – and it’s been a pretty wild ride these last few years – in full knowledge that I could be a deluded love-struck loser – yet I can’t change a thing!
Yeah, I’ve heard that myself – the love-struck loser thing, but what can you do? You’re stuck with him no matter what and the best thing is to just accept it and live life while waiting. Others will think you’ve lost it but well… Again, what can you do?
Hello Spirit Skye,
I had stumbled across your webpage in search for the meaning of a twin soul and the significance of the twin soul connection. I firmly believe I have met my twin soul. We are both in our early 20′s and from different ethnic and religious backgrounds. The signs of recognizing that I met my twin soul coincide with the points listed on your website. At one point, I asked for a sign from God if this person was “the one”, specifically to see his name other than on facebook, the next day as I was getting the mail, I saw a letter with his full first name. I continued to see signs even up until now. Along with the signs I see repeating numbers such as 11:11 and as of late I have been seeing the number 44. Currently, we are at the separation stage and it has been approximately five months in. I have tried to move on but I cannot help but think of him and we both are attending the same college this upcoming January. It is a large campus and I feel it is next to impossible to run into him. If we run into each, would that mean that we would reunite or would the separation phase run for a longer period of time. Also, is there really a significance to seeing the repeating numbers, mainly do they point that I am doing the right thing by leaving the situation or is it alerting me to do the exact opposite. I believe everything happens for a reason, however it feels unnerving to find my twin soul so early in my life.
Thank you for your assistance!
Also, oddly enough, I sent this at 4:44 PM my time….
It is good to have met a Twin Soul early on – you’ll have something to compare your feelings to… (Never settle for anything less, girl!) The numbers are somewhat individual in their meaning, I for instance, NEVER get to see the 11:11, but I see double numbers and 1 to 3 -arrangements, that speak to me intuitively rather than by googling them.
What does it feel like in your gut? Is it a warning or an encouragement? Most often, they are encouraging things. If you bump into him…. Well, you’ll see what happens, it’s mainly up to you two to see what happens. This is not set in stone, this is a test for you. What will you do? How much are you going to give to be together?
Hi Maya,
I had strange things like seeing 11:11 every day for a year after I met my Twin. I also had mail with his first name and my last name come to my house when there was only 1 previous owner with a completely different name.
Since that time, which is now going on 8 years, I realize that there is no quick and sure answer to the Twin soul unification. Just because you Twins doesn’t mean that things will work out. In fact, I have mostly heard of the opposite. I believe the purpose of meeting your Twin, which activates a great change in YOU, is its purpose, not for a relationship with THEM. It’s hard to fathom, because we meet the person of our dreams and yearn to be with them….it doesn’t work out that way usually.
Kali
I agree with Spirit Skye Smith. You can tell when you look at one another. It is as though you are looking into their soul, and time stands still. You completely trust them and know them, although intellectually, you don’t know why you would feel that way. It is a meeting of two souls. It has been over 8 years since I met mine and while the pain is finally gone, I still think about him once in a while. It’s hard not to think of someone when you have felt that deep level of trust, unconditional love and acceptance of another person in such a short amount of time. I spent a whole 12 hours with mine….yet it was the most unforgettable experience of my life.
I met my twin flame when I was 15yrs old he was 17yrs old, back then we were so in love we were together everyday, unfortunaly my parents were so against it that they beat me so bad that they nearly killed me , he left me as he could not bear this any longer . After 30years we have reunited and all those feelings are still there only stronger but he is married with children .we have both tried hard to end it and try to do the right thing but can ‘t live without each other the telepathy is so strong I can hear his voice in my head sometimes I feel I am going mad .since meeting up with him again I feel that I am not the same person I feel more alive than I have ever done I feel young as if I am getting younger people have also commented on how much younger he looks to . I have never felt this way about any one, never thought it could happen to me but he is married and I don ‘t know what to do we have been running from our conetion for 30 years
There is no “right thing” to be done. What your parents did to you is unbelievably cruel and short sighted, and they should be burned at the stake for that if you ask me. If he is willing to come to you, let him. Don’t add an insult to injury, you two need to be together, the sooner the better and as soon as his children understand what happened to you two, what drove you apart, they will love you for showing what true love means. His children don’t need the responsibility of being the reason their dad isn’t happy, even if it took them some time to understand and I’m sure they already do. I wish I could have a word with your Twin, it’s incredibly hard for a man to leave their family, but you two deserve some true bliss after thirty years of this…
First of all I would like to extend a huge loving thanks to all the amazing work you’ve done on the site, Spirit Skye. Your compassion, hard work and understanding is an inspiration and true delight. Reading all of these wonderful stories has been a real treat. I just wanted any insight or advice as I have a hard time discussing this with friends.
I dont know if my situation is a Twin Flame, soulmate or other.
It was 5 years ago, I was 31 & he was 25 when I met my match. I sat next to him at a gaming table in Las Vegas. The initial attraction was like nothing I had experienced before. His voice, scent everything had me drawn in like never before. LOng story short, we gambled for a few hours & then left together to hang out. We had sex almost immedietely and he extended his trip 3 more days. We spent the next few days as we had been together forever. I was more intimate with this man I had just met far more than any long term relationship I was in. We planned to meet up again but living On opposite coasts made it difficult.
I was also very self conscious as I felt too old for him. He was still in college & i was such an old soul in terms of living life to the fullest at a very early age. I had never been with someone younger than me.. We ended up both getting into relationships. 3 years ago he found me on Facebook & we were both in ltr. I was engaged & happy at the time. We kept in touch, never forgetting our birtydays & such.
We made another connection on Nye of this year. He revealed to me that I had always been his best lover. AlOng with striking recollection of the 3 days & nights we spent together. I mean every minute detail was written to me like it was just yesterday. I couldnt believe it. He started a very successful business in the same field Im in. I have never had such a connection before and wanted to know your insight on my situation. We plan to meet up again in a few weeks & i’m so nervous/scared/everything. I feel so old & not good enough for him. Which is odd because he stated he felt that he wasnt good enough for me when we were together 5 yrs ago. Thank you for listening, I really appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. Namaste~
Well, first of all, when I read “I sat next to him at a gaming table in Las Vegas” is the only thing I needed to be convinced! Isn’t that insane?
I’m actually tearing up because this is just heart wrenchingly beautiful way to meet the love of your life and all that pain of separation would make this a hit movie no doubt..! If it’s good enough to be a movie, it’s a Twin Soul! And again I ask: what else would you expect in a Twin? Something a little more intense? Hardly! If you can’t imagine anyone or anything more thrilling, how could it be anything but a twin soul? Please please please give it another go..!!
Thank you so much for your words, opinion and time. I’m going for it
thank you for all your help!
I have enjoyed reading these heartfelt tales this morning; they’re so inspiring — even if some of the comments’ stories are tinged with sadness and uncertainty, it’s still comforting to know that I am not the only one who feels that way about my TF relationship (read: ongoing emotional roller coaster saga).
I’m will TRY to give you the cliff-notes version of my question, but it has been something I have been wanting an answer to for a very, very long time…
On my 18th birthday, I met a strange friend of the family, who — one year later — would take me across the country to meet his other friend, a bit older than me.
Blah blah blah, we fell fast and hard for each other. We kept in touch for five years, and met every so often in a new city, waiting for life/college/work to steady so we could finally be together, as neither of us had met anyone we could compare to the other. Through the years, dozens of miraculous coincidences would push us together, no matter where we were or what we were aspiring to.
When a certain huge university near him in Ohio mysteriously offered up an amazing opportunity to me that I could not pass up, I accepted and relocated to start graduate school.
He was absolutely thrilled, and started planning out creative projects that we could work on together, and places we could visit on campus.
And then suddenly he disappeared.
He wouldn’t write, he wouldn’t call. He would quizzically tell others of our genuine connection, but wouldn’t even write back to an email.
His family called to tell me that he’d been diagnosed with one of the most deadly forms of cancer, but that he had a shot at surviving because it had thankfully been caught very early. But hearing the uncertainty in their voices concerning his life or death…. I was devastated; my heart hurt so bad that I thought *I* was dying.
Almost a year later and still, I am still without my TF. He’s undergoing chemo in Florida and I have since written one small note, expressing my support, to which I received no reply. So I have taken the hint and will let him be. Short of showing up at his doorstep I don’t know what I *could* do, and I certainly won’t stoop to something stalker-ish like that.
But I have to ask… would the universe really give him a deadly disease just to keep him and I apart? Am I to blame? Or I suppose, somehow, as his health declined, so did his love for me ;(
- Nikki
He’s protecting you from his cancer, he doesn’t want you there because it would hurt you more than he can bare. He doesn’t want you to see him suffer and go bald and sick, because you’d be better off without him at this stage. This is what men do; they sacrifice themselves thinking we would be happier without them. He’s wrong. You have to go to him and make sure he understands nothing hurts you more than being apart from him.
Hi.
I am about to reuniinte with mine. We have both been working hard and our pull is SOOO intense, we can’t do it. We HAVE to see each other, hear from each other, something.
I think I’m on my last test. I was trying to hard to save him, while I am saved , or thought. You have to surrender to God and you have to let the man lead. That was my problem. I didnt get that. Now, I am letting him lead and he seems very happy. I wasn not letting him make my happy , because I thought I knew everything. I wll see him tomorrow after I stopped talking to him for 5 days. I was numb and already getting used to it. It sucked, but I was handling it. Then I got a sign, and I ran and called him and he was so upset with me. He was breaking, I think I tramatized him. This was the first time he saw his life without me, and he planned to see me tomorrow, but he says were just friends even if he is in love with me. I don’t our “friendship” wil last 5 min, because its pure bliss. BUt I have to let him come to me. That is soo scary for me. I finally figured out my greatest fear is loosing him so.. I had to give that up 2. That could ONLY, and I will say it againONLY when you commune with God. When you trust his love that he is working and loves us like we can’t even imagine. Thats the problem.. its intense and will be more. Solve your issues, go to chuch. surrender and give UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. and study what that means. basically
WHAT YOU SEE IN THEM in the problem we have.
its a puzzle.
I hope to reunite with my love tomorrow. I am going to see him. pray for me people.
I posted above,Sorry it took so long to respond back.But to answer some of your ?’s.When I met my TS I was going though a troubling time in my life(it also turned out to be a great time to as I met my TS and I was startig the career I wanted).All of that crashed down on me I was drinking alot and going through a rough patch I met up with my childrens father(I already knew him)He got me pregnant with our first child about a week after hooking back up.We never were married .We are still not married we just have 4 kids together.Anyway come to find out my TS is married now with a baby on the way.So im just going to live my life the best I know how,Im thinking of going back to the career I started and doing some traveling mabye have some fun along the way:)
Hi Skye,
I have been researching the Twin Flame phenomenum for quite some time now since meeting mine in Finland. As it turns out this meeting has also awaken my emapthic abilities. This has been very confusing to me. I am married and have not been the same since meeting my twin flame. I met my TF in Finland, I was there for 3 days on business and she went with a friend for one night to Helsinki, (she lives in a another city in Finland about 2 hrs away) she almost did not go that night but something told her to. I did not see her walk into the restaurant where the group I was with were eating, but I did feel a presence and strange calmness,(fyi this is the same feeling I had when my plane was landing in Finland, only it was stronger this time). I was suddenly drawn to a table across the room, I told a collegue of mine I will be back and he asked where are you going, I told him I had to go over to the table across the room, (he said I had this strange look in my eyes and just left without any further explaination).there were two wonderful/beautiful women at the table and I introduced myself. When my Twin flame and I touched hands with our eyes meeting I felt like I was hit between the yes with a baseball bat We were inseperale for the rest of the evening.She asked my why I came to the table and I explained to her I was not sure but more like I was drawn there, I asked why she asked me that question and she had said when she walked in to the restaurant i was the only on she saw. I live in Canada and she lives in Finland, the empath awakening is another detail of the story which adds more torment. You know when I left Finland after meeting my TF I was crying, full bore crying. We have kept in touch, I returned to Finland to spend 2 weeks with her and then it happened… the running, we are now in the middle of the separation cycle and it is painful (I am still married and obviously very confused and tormented. We have had no contact for quite some time now.Any insight
What, in terms of real life seemed to throw you in separation? It’s usually a symptom of something that has been going on for life times, and unless you deal with it, you can’t reunite. Popular ones: “You don’t really love me” (Why would they feel that way?) “You’d be happier with someone else.” (Why would you feel that way?) “I’m afraid I’m going to lose you” (a popular one due to convenient or existing marriages) etc… Misunderstandings are bad, because Twin Souls bring out your every insecurity you’ve ever held, particularly about them.
Beautiful story, by the way.
Hi Skye,
Firstly, thank you for such an amazing site. Reading this provides some clarity to my own situation.
My TF and I recently parted ways (about a month ago). Our first meeting and union was quite interesting. We were with other people, but no matter how much we tried to deny it, we fell for each other. Hard. We ended up leaving our partners at the time to be with each other. And it was absolute Heaven on Earth.
As with all initial phases of the TFs, for the first year it was absolutely bliss. Even though we were in different countries, and there’s an age difference (8 years, my TF is in their early 20s), we were madly in love and couldn’t get enough of the other.
At the beginning of our relationship, my TF /loved/ the idea of settling down with me, having children and basically living happily ever after. One of the things that I was very attracted to in my TF was this love of God in their heart and this sense of tradition that I didn’t have in my life. My TF has amazing parents. Having had parents who seemed very much in love, they were my TFs role models for a happy life. But then they divorced. Suddenly, and for reasons none of us were expecting. This is where things went downhill rapidly.
My TF started distancing themselves, although they kept saying this was temporary and their way of dealing with stress. All the bad influences previously in their life which they had cut out crept back in (I mean people, BTW). The person I knew and loved and who always showed me the same started changing. Insecurities appeared. I’ve always had them, but with my TF they were practically gone until all this happened. And then they started appearing all the time. My TF started showing less and less affection. Arguments became a frequent part of our lives.
I was honest with my TF about my feelings, but despite many discussions, things didn’t improve. By this time, I had moved to be with my TF, leaving my family and friends behind. I think my TF was looking forward to having me in the same country, but once I got here, I think they realized they would have to give up their freedom. And yes, I arrived here AFTER my TF’s parents ended their relationship.
It’s finally come to a point where, although my TF keeps telling me they’re in love with me, the depth of our love for each other frightens them now. They want to go on a journey of self-discovery. They want to leave their options open for others to enter their life. Where before they loved the idea of marriage, kids, a happy home, those things now seem like a burden. They’ve become hot and cold. But despite them wanting to see other people, the thought of me being with another is something they dislike.
I have a gifted friend, who has known of our connection from day one, and tried to help in anyway they can to ensure we completed our union. However, the truth of our union scared my TF. They became the runner. After these events, my friend advised they had a vision in which in a former existence my TF was incredibly cruel to me (through which I learnt a lesson of strength and unconditional love, but forgot to love myself and in this life that’s my greatest lesson). And it appears that my TF may be dealing with deep karmic issues, and without realizing it they may think they’re unworthy of my love in this lifetime. And interestingly, although they seem to dislike the idea, in a conversation following the break up, my TF could see me with someone who they believed was worthy of me.
I just wanted to get a different perspective, your thoughts on this. My TF just seems incredibly confused. Probably owing to age, lack of living life. When my TF decided to end it, their reasoning was “I know I love you, but I’m not sure if it’s as a friend or a lover.” By the end of that week of our break up, they confessed that yes, they are really in love with me, but that they had to go ahead with the break up anyway. The next week, when we were no longer with each other physically, my TF confessed their love for me had grown stronger. But again, they couldn’t be with me.
This is all very confusing.
I can see why you’re confused, this is very confusing… I find it particularly odd that they’d react that strongly to their parents divorce but then again in their early twenties that may have a strong influence on some people, especially if they have viewed their parents as a pinnacle of true love. This may completely shatter their belief in true love, and thus force them to lower their expectations as to what they should look for in a relationship. So if I’m guessing this is a person with a religious background, who has brought up believing that if you follow a set of rules you are pretty much set for a happy existence forever more? When their parents divorce after following a certain life path, they confirmed that what they’d been taught was wrong, or see their parents as hypocrites. It’s also possible that the more they tried to understand the divorce the less they ended up understanding, and whilst trying to hold onto some shred of evidence that good things happen to good people… The reality might have struck them hard. This would explain their withdrawal, (what do I know about love? This is deceiving, is this just lust, how can I trust this?) and perhaps their questioning attitude towards you, which surfaced your own insecurities? Am I making any sense so far?
Your honesty wouldn’t help here, because clearly she believes her parents have been honest with each other and their children too, but still this happened. (What do they know about true love anyway?) Especially if they try to play the divorce down by saying that “they were always in love up until recently” to make them feel better, they would unwittingly make them even more scared of commitment because obviously you can’t trust your own emotions for long or to last long, and you can just fall out of love like that… Most likely their parents waited to divorce until their children were old enough, but didn’t want them to know and feel responsible for “forcing” them to stay together for that long. They can even internalise the blame of that divorce so that they see themselves tainted by their parents betrayal of their vows, and like an “illegitimate child” which would render them unworthy of your love.
Clearly an extreme reaction to a fairly normal, every day situation, but tell me if this sounds to you like an exaggeration – it does to me!
Thank you so much for your insight. It made me feel almost normal! I was in a Romeo and Juliet type relationship when I was 16, he was 18. It was very intense on all levels, and we didn’t have the maturity to sustain it. Fast forward THIRTY THREE years to this year, I experienced a profound Ascension experience. I discovered that this boy that I never got over losing, is my twin. The emotional roller coaster started! Now I am 49, and he is 51, so your age range is right on target for us. Actually, all the “signs” are right, so that tells me I’m not just crazy, that this could be real, not just my wishful thinking. We are both married, but I believe in my heart that we will be together again in this lifetime, and our current relationships will end honorably and harmoniously. We’ve been writing friendly emails, and I’m focusing on a feeling of gratitude that we’ve stayed in touch and can do that.
The most fascinating aspect is the sexual connection, and it surprises me that others are not experiencing this too. I can go into meditation and feel his energy mingling with mine. My out breath sends it to him, and then my in breath brings him back to me. When I am totally in tune with this, his energy flows through me and as I feel it, I go into a massive, convulsive full body shaking and orgasmic/cosmic ecstasy. This comes over in waves and lasts up to an hour. Wow! I wish I could tell him this is going on!! It does feel like he’s really here in person. Or I can stare at any photo of him, and it happens. Then sometimes right out of the blue I will feel him, and think that he is thinking about me, and it doesn’t matter what I’m doing, or where, and I start to orgasm, and the feeling of him is like a gift, and I end up crying with gratitude. There could be no one else for me physically now that I’ve been through this! I feel the connection through all the chakras, though they are not all open between us yet.
From what I have found out online, and my own feelings about this, my next step is surrender. Sometimes that’s very hard to do, and I’m still crying because we ever did separate, but I feel such Divine Love, I have faith that we will come together at the perfect time.
The sexuality part of Twin Flames is quite personal, and unfortunately an aspect that some Twin Flame theorists state “unnecessary” or “non-existing” between Twin Flames, as if their “enlightened status” would take them “above all this”. This is why in many places people don’t open up about the wild sexuality that is characteristic for a Twin Flame relationship where the root and chakral chakras are working properly, AND where they have found the right type of Mirror Spirit.
Isn’t it good that you have the spiritual connection to your Twin, 33 years without any connection would have been awful..! I hope you will find your way back together soon!
Thank you! That helps me to see it more clearly, and our heart chakras and those below it are totally connected. I will work on strengthening the throat now. As far as anyone feeling that they’re “above” sexuality, that means they are rejecting their physical temple. Twin flame union is a sacred connection to the Divine source.
Hi Skye,
Wow. That makes…absolutely perfect sense.
My TF did believe in true love. But over the past few months whenever that topic was brought up, all of a sudden true love didn’t exist.
And you are right. They were brought up in a fairly religious household. We use to say that their parents were our role models for a happy marriage. Because on the surface, it seemed that way. They complimented each other well, still went out on dates. So yes, what you say does make complete sense. I’m sure they’ve also said things to try and make her feel better about the situation, which most likely resulted in her only getting hurt more and distrusting. They keep trying to shelter her, which I can understand as that’s what parents do.
I do believe my TF reacted very strongly to what might seems to you and I a normal part of life (I completely agree with you – I always thought that through the past few months). Things happen. We understand this. But I am older than my TF, but even at her age I had lived and experienced a lot more. My TF on the other hand was brought up in a upper-class family, and being an only child, had everything handed to them on a silver platter.
And yes, my insecurities flared like crazy when the one person who couldn’t get enough of me started withdrawing from me. Also, unfortunately, two bad influences re-entered my TF’s life, only confusing her more. Her energy is incredibly confusing. And I feel it.
I’m trying to take this separation as a time to dedicate to myself. I can only now look at this from the perspective that I need to be a little selfish and put myself first (as the past few months I kept putting her needs before mine, compromising myself, which I now know was a mistake). If we ever unite in the physical here, or some other time, I don’t know. I can only focus on myself right now, and focus on my work in hopes that I can still help others. Let’s see how I do
Thank you, Skye. Your insight is perfect!
Another point that brought up by what you just said, I am thinking that her parents may have been non-sexual Mirror Spirits (as in non sexual twin souls if the theory would allow) which means they were essentially perfect for each other but not in love. Normally people wouldn’t even know the difference – even themselves, but the fact remains they shouldn’t marry or remain married once they figure out this simple thing: “We are BEST mates, and I want what is best for you, and I want you to find true love for yourself as I am not the one.” Might find more insight on that theory here: http://www.mirrorspirits.com/mirror-spirit-levels/
Hello,
I had found one of my TFs 6 yrs ago! It was extremly intense! We r 9 yrs apart and our lifes were very different! We knew we couldn’t make it in the long run due to us both wanting different things(mostly he wouldn’t budge), but we hung on due to intense love n yes sex! We tryed to stay away from each other for 2 1/2 yrs before finally succeding! He’s with someone else since then( a lil over a yr) n I took that time to heal n follow my lightworking path! I since then believe I may be “dating” another TF. I knew him at age 6 n would stare at him on the bus…lol! I remember wondering what that feeling was I felt! I was so young I can’t imagine it was sexual arrousal! The strange part we realized is that we never “ran” into each other again! Even though we had the same friends, he lived 2 doors from my BF, I lived next to one of his friend, I knew his sister who was a good friends friend…lol! We never ended up inm the same room, but my “crush” held on threw teenage yrs. He reciently contacted me on FB! We have a good bond and laugh constantly! He does challenge me sometimes, but I feel so pulled to him. He’s comming to visit in 2 weeks n I’m excited! To finally get to my question…lol, I woke up with this statement in my head: Evan(previous TF) and Zack(current guy) are working together and are the same! I am a dream walker n get many answers this way! However, I’m unclear what this means! I’m aware I’m incarnated in more than one body-could this be the same for them!? Or are they just the same meaning alike!? Or r they both my TF!? Insight would be greatly appreciated! Thank you! Ohhh n I have been told Evan will come back-how complicated it would be to have more than one TF in ur life at the same time! How would u decide what to do!??? Too intense…lol!
I’m starting to sound like a broken record, but I think you might find some answers on my other blog; http://www.mirrorspirits.com/mirror-spirit-bond-created/ . I have found flaws in the Twin Flame theory and started writing an alternative theory to that, one that accepts there can be more than one such soul bond. In my view the sameness simply means the same group of Mirror Spirits, not entirely another incarnation of yourself the way that we understand “the self”. (I’ve studied this multiple simultaneous incarnations long and hard, countless of sleepless nights and came to the conclusion that it simply doesn’t add up. I have come to a conclusion that we have so called spirit doubles (my term), who are very much like us, but still, not us in the strictest sense of the word.) You have essentially stumbled across the same thing that I have discovered; you can have multiple twin flames and they can love you simultaneously, and that they are “working together”. You may not need to choose if you open yourself to the idea that each of them will find their proper place in your life, even if it was unconventional. All of these factors led me to writing the Mirror Spirit theory, that explains all these “exceptions” a bit better than the twin soul -theories.
Skye….I never knew anything about Twin Flames until about a month ago. A woman I’ve known for a few years was going out with someone I knew. I had never met her, but we both worked in the same industry and talked via email and instant message a few times over the years. She recently broke up her boyfriend and I called to see how they both were doing. I just wanted to make sure she was alright. From that point on, we started talking and texting daily.
About a month later we decided to meet for coffee. Over the course of the next few days, I started having strange dreams that felt more like memories than dreams. They were all from a different time but were exceptionally vivid. I also felt this incredible attraction to her, different than anything I’d ever experienced. Almost like the connection was at a different frequency, or there was some kind of magnetism. I didn’t even know here but I felt like I couldn’t be apart from her from the day I met her. I also started crying almost to the point of hyperventilating, which is completely not my nature. I am a strong, confident, successful man and I have never been afraid of anything.
I Googled what I was experiencing and instantly a number of articles on Twin Flames came up. This was the first I had ever heard of anything like this. I feel like we were together before and I lost her somehow (I think she passed away). The thought of losing her again terrifies me. I can’t explain what I’m going through or why, but I keep thinking either she’s my twin flame or I’m simply going insane!
We’ve gone out a few times and it’s been wonderful but she’s told me straight out that because of just coming out of a long term relationship she just wants to be friends right now. Honestly, if that’s what I need to do to keep her in my life, then that’s what I’ll do. I can’t bear the though of scaring her away and losing her again. I know she needs time and space, as anyone would in her situation.
My problem is that I’m so overcome with emotion, and I’m certain there’s something to this. I want to tell her about my dreams and everything that’s going on, but I don’t want to overwhelm her. Any advice you can give me?
As you know, giving her space right now is important so she doesn’t mistake you for the rebound guy. I think your instincts are quite on the money here. Even though she is a Twin Flame, she is still just a woman – but your woman.
You know her through and through, and what ever anyone else tells you about her, should go through your own filters to see if that’s true. Don’t let your fear of losing her drive you away, either. The terror of losing her can be quite genuine, because you have lost her many times before, and men do feel that pain right into their being. (Read: http://www.mirrorspirits.com/she-skin-he-skeleton/ ) Next time; ask to go first, women deal with that better. 
Take things slow and be patient, but don’t fight your natural urges, amongst which is respecting her feelings. Help her come out as herself, love her open.
Spirit Skye thank you so much for your reply. One thing I keep wondering is, how do we know if this is mutual? I have to wait to hear back from my TF after basically revealing that I had dreamt about him in depth…how do I know? We all know that so many people have one-sided fixations and crushes…I feel like I *have* to know it’s mutual, otherwise I feel like it’s a teenage-like fantasy, something in my head…
In my position I basically have to wait for him to reveal his side of the story…but is there any way of knowing it’s mutual…it’s hard waiting as you have pointed out on several articles:)
It’s in his eyes. You’ll know by the way he looks at you, if he can’t break away from his gaze, and if your eyes lock a lot, then it has to be mutual and also sexual, even if he wasn’t willing to admit it yet. The eyes will be full of questions, like they want to dig into your soul to find out who you are, why you are, where you’ve been, what makes you so amazing, and finally – “Do I love you?”
Popbee,
I think that there is no way of intellectually knowing for sure what the other person is feeling. I think your soul knows. You can tell by the way he looked at you or what he said. I think that since men are usually less emotional than women, that they surmise it was a purely physical response that they had. They chock it up to hormones instead of a deep soul connection….even if they think about it years later. For example, the person I believe is my Twin looked me up online after 7-1/2 years. We only spent 12 hours together….so what does that say to me? He still remembers and thinks about me. I have never spent 12 hours with someone before either and still thought about them that long after. That says denial about his feelings for me. I’ve realized that meeting your Twin is all about change in YOUR life. It’s not about being in a relationship with them, although I fantasized about it for years after! Some people may have had better and easier results then me. For me, I doubt I will ever see him again, and I’ve come to the realization that is okay.
I wish you all the best because it is not an easy road….just something life slams on us as we are moving along and we have to learn how to deal with it.
Kali
Men are NOT less emotional than women are, they are just less likely to show emotion. Two different things. They are also less likely to the Twin Soul feelings down to a spiritual connection, but doesn’t mean they wouldn’t recognise it as love. When they leave, they are likely to think along the lines of “not being good enough” for their true love, and “freeing the woman” from the relationship, but that’s not usually what we think.